Routine or no routine?
Which ever your method of madness, one thing is for sure. It’s personal.
We can gain advice from others, but when it comes down to it, it’s whatever works for you, the family and baby.
Some people love a routine, finding freedom in the structure (claiming it assists the baby in feeling secure and comfort, as they know what comes next), where as others prefer to go with the flow and follow the babies lead.
There really is no right or wrong, but studies have found that most babies actually develop their own routine, or pattern, which they eventually fall into, even if we the parents aren’t planning on developing a routine or daily schedule.
I personally love routine. I’ve found that my babies generally have slept better and have been happier when we know what’s happening each day. Harrison in particular craves order and still now, at 6 years old, needs to know what is happening each day to relax. With the other two, the routine wasn’t as strict in the early days, however I’ve noticed how much better life is, even now, if we have some regular routine and order. I believe this helps them feel safe and secure.
You night be 100% against it and that’s ok. Whatever the choice, I just keep reminding myself that as long as I keep listening to my gut and go with it, everything will work out. I wish the same thing for you x
If you are pregnant right now or have a newborn and would like to see what I did, I’ve listed it below for you. I hope it helps 🙂
Routine for 1 Month Old Baby
The first month really is like the fourth trimester. During this time I found that no rules apply. Hugs, warm cosy snuggles, a great bed and milk pretty much sums it up for me.
Routine for 2 Month Old Baby
Around the 2nd month, I found the natural rhythm started to kick in. The pulling of the ears to show tiredness all of a sudden started happening at around the same time each day. That’s when I knew the natural routine had kicked in.
To provide comfort I used my song ‘Have a Little Rest‘ before it was time to sleep (even when out). I found this worked as a trigger to remind them what was happening, they heard the song, relaxed and went to sleep happily.
As far as routine, that was pretty much it. Every month it would change as the sleep needed wasn’t quite as long. Harrison was a short sleeper and Vancouver and Beau were both long sleepers, however the same fact remained…they all went to sleep happily.
If you wanted to go a step further, you could even start playing some of these songs whilst pregnant. You’ll be surprised how baby recognises them and settles in the outside world. More here.
I’m always happy to share and love to hear your stories, so please do contact me if you wanted more information on any of this.
You are amazing and remember, whatever you choose to do, it’s the right thing!
Lots of love,
To learn more on the music and books Kris created for her children follow the links below.
Sing Baby Sing – sing, play and soothe baby.
Black and White Stories For Babies – help babies eyes grow and develop.