It’s a real baby! What do I do with it?

It’s a REAL BABY! What Do I Do With It?

Taking baby home. What do you do?

I remember when my first son Harrison was born. The whole way through the pregnancy it was uncomprehendable that he was inside me. Then when he came flying out, my first thought was –

‘Wow it’s a REAL baby!’

We brought him home from the hospital so carefully.

We had the room all set up, the cot ready and the books ready to follow by way of routine and help.

The first few days were amazing. Still on a high from giving birth and Harrison sleeping pretty much constantly, life was good. Presents and visitors made for a busy and happy time.

After a few weeks, the sleeping became less and Harrison started to spend more time awake. I remember thinking ‘What do I do with him?’

For some, becoming a mum might come naturally. For me, I had no idea what to do. It also didn’t help that Harrison cried non stop.

What do you do when the books and everything you try don’t work? You seek help.

We took many trips to the local Community Centre and asked many doctors opinions on what it could be. For Harrison, it ended up being silent reflux, however the only real solution we were given was –‘he’ll grow out of it.’ NOOOOO! How on earth were we all going to survive?!

To make matters harder, I was obsessed with these development guides which had activities you could do with your baby each month (assisting in their development). But as hard as I tried, I couldn’t do any of them as Harrison wouldn’t stop crying!!!

It wasn’t until one day, development guide in hand, I started to sing, using one of the suggested activities ‘Peekaboo’. Guess what? He stopped crying!!! From here I just kept going, writing songs to match each activity suggested. It was so amazing, it provided such relief for all of us, as the crying stopped and it gave us beautiful, gentle activities to do during his awake time.

The last remaining hard part was getting Harrison’s burps up. We sung the songs and bounced him around the house, however then I remembered the black and white images we had on the walls in his room. What if I made up some stories using black and white images? Would he hold still and relax enough to get the burps up?

From here Ribbit the Frog, Hip the Hippo and Ellie the Elephant were born. Harrison sat, listened to the stories, relaxed and the burps came out. Amazing! And the best part about it was, the black and white images were also great for his eye development.

This all basically saved our life. I know it sounds dramatic but if you’ve been in a similar position where the crying never stops you would know just how amazing it is when it does stop.

And now after 3 babies, I’m still using the songs and the stories. You can find out more here.

I also discovered a few other things which helped along the way. Hope you find them useful too.

1. Enjoy! There is lots of advice out there and we often feel we have to do certain things with baby at certain times. If possible, the best thing I found to do was throw all that out of the window and enjoy. The rest comes naturally believe it or not.

2. Get to know him. As baby starts to spend more awake time, this is an exciting time. It’s the time of first smiles, first laughs and possibly even first projectile vomits out in public 🙂 But this is the time where if you can relax and enjoy, you can then really enjoy getting to know your new little addition. Look into his eyes, hold him close and watch his personalty unfold.

3. Do something you want to do. Since baby has arrived, every single thing has been about them. That’s not a bad thing as this is a hugely important and special time, however now it’s time to get you back. What do you love? exercise? going out for a coffee? going to the shops? Whatever it is, go and do it. The best thing is, you have a new mate to do it with. You’ll find that when you do something for yourself, you feel happy, which then rubs off on baby.

4. Relaxed play. With all my babies I wanted to do activities which helped them with their development. The problem with this was that I put way too much pressure on myself. Thankfully using the songs and stories I created, this took all the pressure off and it gave us all something to do when baby was awake. More on that HERE.

5. Tummy time. Some babies love tummy time, some hate it. Either way it’s great to do on the change table after a nappy change or even on a mat in a safe place on the floor. I personally loved laying my boys down on the ground with my Black and White Books which they loved, the contrast in the colours kept their attention and helped them lift their head. Best part about it was that the pictures were helping their eyes develop.

And lastly, listen to your gut and trust yourself. You are amazing!

Lots of love,

Kris xxx

To learn more on the music and books Kris created for her children follow the links below.

Sing Baby Sing – sing, play and soothe baby.

Black and White Stories For Babies – help babies eyes grow and develop.

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The perfectly imperfect parent

kristinagPerfectly imperfect. I love it. It’s something I’m coming to terms with.

As a mum of two boys under the age of 4 years and another on the way, an immaculate kitchen, polished floors and neatly folded clothes is something of the past.

Instead, it’s spaghetti thrown around the room like art, ice cream poured into the rug and clothes used as piles to jump from whilst pretending to be a super hero.

During the newborn stage it was even worse. The perfect white outfit covered in vomit, the sparkling car covered in crumbs, wrappers, unknown smelly objects and a usually spotless bag filled with empty wrappers, old baby food tubes, spilled formula and hundreds of 5 cent coins.

Lets call it a comedy. Starring me. Or some days, a horror film 🙂

But here’s the thing, being a perfectionist, always wanting the best for the kids and striving to help them in their social, emotional and physical development, is REALLY hard when you are striving for perfection. Clean kitchen, house and children. THAT, takes up the day. The end.

But one day my gorgeous husband (he’s reading this so…) and super amazing, hot and luscious 🙂 (actually, seriously!) mentioned that he would rather come home to mess, me rested and all of us happy. ?!?! So I tried it.

It was messy and not one bit nice. The dishes were falling off the benches, the washing was slung from the rooftop, literally, however the boys and I had played, sung, danced and read together. We even had time to create characters, draw pictures and play make believe. So then when the husband came home…we were imperfectly happy!

Does this mean we’ll live in mess forever and ever amen? N.O. But it does mean that I’m learning how being imperfect can actually be pretty perfect!

Here’s to fun, crazy and messy days!

Kris xo

 

* Don’t forget to check out Bubsi Brain’s music and books helping you lead an easier and happier life.

CAR MUSIC – keep baby and the kids settled in the car

DEVELOPMENT GUIDES – follow the music development guide

CAPTIVATING BABY BOOKS -help baby’s eyes develop as you read

You are amazing!

you-are-amazingThis note is for you.

We as parents experience extreme highs and extreme lows and most of them can happen within minutes of each other.

“I’m so happy, how amazing is my baby?!” to a few minutes later “this is the hardest day of my life!”

Then pile on the “am I doing it right?’ guilt, mix it with lack of sleep and what you have is an emotional parent.

Well today this is for you –

I hope you know that you’re amazing.

You have done the reading or maybe you haven’t, you have your own ideas on what you think is right, trust that. Trust your instinct, know you are amazing.

On the days when it’s hard, it’s not your fault. It just happens, you are doing everything in your power to help, be kind to yourself. Make yourself a cup of tea, read a magazine, you are amazing.

The times when advice is given but you don’t agree, it’s ok, each to their own. You are amazing.

All your dreams and goals which have been pushed to the side will one day happen, don’t worry, you are amazing.

It’s not your fault, you’re doing a great job and yes your instinct is right, trust it. You are amazing x

From one mum to another.

With love,

Kris x

P.s today I say this to myself, please say it to yourself too.

Kris is a former Aria Nominated Singer / Songwriter whom has discovered the art of creating happiness and calm through music and books. Her music creates a happy atmosphere and her black and white books engage babies and siblings alike.

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Your Baby’s Brain

Navigating a new baby can be tough. Especially if it’s your first baby.

Learning to read babies cues is huge and then there’s the added pressures of breastfeeding vs bottle, routine vs no routine, the list goes on.

The last thing you think about is baby’s development. Or maybe you do and you get overwhelmed with all the advice out there.

FullSizeRender-14Quick facts on your baby’s brain:

* Did you know that a babies brain is made up of cells which based on experiences develop vital connections in the brain that influence babies emotional, social and intellectual development?

* The way these cells connect depends on baby’s experiences – interacting with others, stimulating senses, singing, reading and active play.

This makes me want to engage in some kind of developmental activity, what about you?

What can you do to help your baby’s brain develop?

Lets simplify it.

There are many things you can do to continue in baby’s development, however simple every day experiences can help shape your baby’s brain, how easy is that?!

Involve baby in your day to day activities, meet up with friends, sing and read, go for walks and explore the great outdoors.

Enjoy the fact that everything you do is something new for your baby PLUS it assists in their development!

And that’s that. Blog over 🙂 Here’s to making life easier, not harder and enjoying seeing the world through the eyes of our children!

Much love,

Kristina x

For our Paediatrician Endorsed Developmental CD ‘Sing Baby Sing’! Click HERE

Press play, sing along and enjoy the fact that you are helping baby in his/her development.

For further reading on baby development click HERE.